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Hank Lord's avatar

I'll turn 80 in April. My dream is that I stay (become?) civil as I lose my faculties, rather than becoming a cranky old fucker snapping at anybody who comes near me. My understanding of neurology suggests I will have no say in the outcome.

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mezzrow's avatar

By the time I was 32, I had buried my last parent. That was a lifetime ago. They weren't good at survival. There's a lot of that in my family.

There are a lot of ways to miss your mother. It's probably easier to do it after they're gone. Vaya con dios, both of you. I'll be there soon enough myself, maybe with no one to visit at all. You make your choices and you get to live (and die) with them. Her choices got her to her 80's with a caring, loving daughter to do whatever she can to help her out. We'll all do our best in the meantime.

"I'll try to not be quite so damn cranky," he said.

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